Whiners Never Win
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but despite what you may be hearing on social media no one owes you anything. Just because you started a business, doesn’t mean you are owed success. Just because you graduated from college with a woman’s studies degree, doesn’t mean you are owed a six figure job. And just because someone did something bad to you in the past, doesn’t mean you are owed something extra.
As an American, this mindset is what I believe can take down our country. A country that has pulled more people out of poverty and provides more opportunity than any place in the history of the world, is now faced with major challenges. Not just political or outside challenges but with the individual mindset of what we want to be as a individuals. If we want to leave our children in a better place, it’s time for us to step up to the plate. It’s time for us to stop being whiners and start figuring out how we can be better.
No great business, church, product or organization was built on whining. So many people want to win but so many aren’t willing to put in the blood sweat and tears to make it happen. I used to see a new product or service and tell everyone around me that "I thought of that 5 years ago" or “they stole my idea.” That is a whiner’s mindset. I could have done it, I could have found a way to make it happen, but I didn’t. It wasn’t until I realized that the only way to accomplish anything was to stop sitting around and waiting, but to get out there and do it. The whiner mindset will always set you back. Most people will tell you they hate whining, but if you talk with them for more than 30 minutes you find out they have an excuse for everything.
All hope is not lost. Even if your situation isn’t what you want it to be, even if you have had setbacks, you can turn it around. Here are 3 ways you can quit your whining and start winning.
Organize Your Priorities
Making money is not the only definition of success. Some want the freedom to travel, some want to make a difference by dedicating their lives to others. No matter what your goals are you have to prioritize your life to get there. When your priorities are conflicting you start to make excuses. When you aren’t making those small decisions that get you to where you want to go you start to only make choices in the moment. If you really want to win, you must prioritize what’s important to you and make a plan so that every decision you make helps you achieve your goals.
Once you set your priorities and start making decisions you need to see results. Most people start whining when they don’t accomplish their goals right away. That’s because they don’t set success benchmarks that allow them to see results. Take the time to set 2, 5 and 10 year goals. If you expect to become a millionaire after a year of opening your business, you will most likely go back to being an excuse maker because that is an unrealistic goal. If you can’t get up on stage to speak, try to give your talk in front of a few friends. If you can’t get that small business loan to open your clothing store, start by setting up an online store to sell your cloths. Take those small steps and don’t stop until you meet those benchmarks.
Train Your Mind
Most of the time our mind is what holds us back. It’s not usually physical problems or lack of ability that prevent us from getting to where we want to be. The only way to defeat these “mind monsters” is to fight back against them. This doesn’t happen by accident. People that succeed learn to convince their own mind that it is full of crap. Training your brain that just because something is scary or it makes you uncomfortable doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it is the first step to crushing those negative thoughts.
No president, boss, or family member is responsible for your success or failure. Only you control your life. Instead of making excuses we must learn to push through and find a way to overcome our obstacles. This is YOUR time. Whatever you’ve been through, you and only you can choose to whine or win!